To Believe or Not To Believe? (Predicting the Past)
It all boils down to this one question. Fortune-telling, tarot card reading, astrology, horoscopes, numerology. They all ask us to invest in them something from inside ourselves: total faith and belief, because the slightest doubt will cancel everything out.
And in this world of ours where almost everything has a monetary equivalent, belief is a free luxury. It is easy to believe. It's not always to see is to believe. Sometimes, somethings must be believed to be seen. It's easy to believe; you just open your mind.
The hard part is standing by our beliefs and making them our own, and breathing life on them, till we are one and the same.
To believe doesn't mean resignation to fate. It doesn't mean just because we are Scorpios, or Arians, or Saggitarians, we must comply with whatever characteristics our star signs are supposed to carry. To believe is to explore what else is beyond. Stretch our limits, be more than just what has been allotted to us.
Humans are creatures who like to revel in their chosen beliefs. It's what separates us from animals: choice. We choose our beliefs, We hide our doubts. We obsess about the future.
Why do we want to know the future?
Humans are a curious species not contented with living in the present. We are time-travelers, gripped by our past, fascinated by the future. We want to make things right and prevent those that would go wrong.
It is all about control. To glimpse the future is power. Then, we wouldn't have to be helpless victims of bad weather, bloody wars, accidents and other mishaps. We may not successfully be able to radically alter the future, but at least we can manage it in our favor.
We need to be assuaged and appeased that our lives are purposeful, and have meaning. And the present moment is not enough to supply us all we need--after all, it is such a fleeting moment, readily gone, classified and shelved right away as the past the next day.
The past and the future is what we rely on, what we try to link, to be able to come to terms with ourselves.
Pyschics or Skeptics? (Remembering the Future)
Life is deliberately full of mysteries, not for us to rack our brain trying to solve every little equation, but for us to just sit back and relax and enjoy the little surprises that await us.
Even if that surprise is on the other side of the computer screen, blinking hard, hopeful. Indeed, technology is the unfailing medium in spreading oneness in all of us.
Instead of being hard-headed skeptics, let's open our minds and hearts to the possibilities of the future.
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Tuesday, June 5, 2007
Are You Love Addicted?
Imagine that you have a little child - a son or daughter, but that you are only 15 years old. How are you going to feel about this child? There is a good possibility that you will feel that this child is a burden, limiting your freedom. You will likely feel that the child is too demanding, needing too much from you. You may want to go out and have fun and not be tied down to this child.
Is this how you feel about your own inner child - your own feelings and needs? Does it feel burdensome to take loving care of yourself? Do you feel like your own feelings and needs are just too much to have to take care of? Do you feel like taking care of yourself is just hard? Do you believe it is selfish to take loving care of yourself? Do you wish someone else would come along and meet your emotional needs to feel loved, valued, and worthy?
If this is how you feel, it is because you have not yet done the inner work of developing a loving adult part of you - a part of you that is connected with a spiritual source of love, wisdom, strength, guidance and comfort. It is your adolescent self who is charge, and this part of you not only does not want the job of taking care of you, it is not adequate to handle the job.
This is what creates love addiction.
You have a little child inside you - your feeling self - who need lots of love, attention, comfort, valuing, validating, connection and compassion. When you have no desire to give this to yourself because you feel it is too hard, you feel too inadequate, you think it is selfish, or you believe that it is someone else's job to meet these needs, then you are abandoning yourself. If you believe that your best feelings come from someone else loving you instead of you loving you, then you are abandoning yourself. And when you abandon yourself, that little child in you is left to get the love he or she needs elsewhere.
When you abandon yourself because you have not learned how to take loving care of yourself or because you don't want the responsibility of your own feelings and needs, that is when you become needy of others love and attention. You learn many ways of trying to get the love, attention and compassion you need.
Think for a moment about what you do to get love, connection, attention, approval or compassion from others.
Do you try to be perfect - looking right, saying the right thing, being a high achiever? Do you try to be cute or funny? Do you try to show others how smart you are? Do you strive to have the best - the best house, the best car, the best wife or husband, the best children, the best clothing? Or, do you act helpless, incompetent, in need of rescuing? Do you pull on others with your complaining, your incessant talking, your whining, sulking, silence, or your bragging? Are you overly nice, a people-pleaser? Do you attempt to get the attention you want through intimidation - with anger, threats, blame, or violence?
When you have abandoned yourself and are love-addicted, you will have developed many ways of trying to have control over getting the love you need. That little child in you is desperate to be loved. The emptiness of the self-abandonment and the resulting longing for love leads you to behave in the very ways that end up pushing others away. It is a losing battle. IT WILL NEVER WORK. You will never get the love you need by trying to get others to give to you what only you can give to yourself.
If you are interested in learning how to give yourself the love you have always wanted and break your love-addiction, you can start by downloading our free Inner Bonding course. This 6-step course will begin to give you the tools you need to move out of love-addiction and into love.
http://www.tentacool.net
Is this how you feel about your own inner child - your own feelings and needs? Does it feel burdensome to take loving care of yourself? Do you feel like your own feelings and needs are just too much to have to take care of? Do you feel like taking care of yourself is just hard? Do you believe it is selfish to take loving care of yourself? Do you wish someone else would come along and meet your emotional needs to feel loved, valued, and worthy?
If this is how you feel, it is because you have not yet done the inner work of developing a loving adult part of you - a part of you that is connected with a spiritual source of love, wisdom, strength, guidance and comfort. It is your adolescent self who is charge, and this part of you not only does not want the job of taking care of you, it is not adequate to handle the job.
This is what creates love addiction.
You have a little child inside you - your feeling self - who need lots of love, attention, comfort, valuing, validating, connection and compassion. When you have no desire to give this to yourself because you feel it is too hard, you feel too inadequate, you think it is selfish, or you believe that it is someone else's job to meet these needs, then you are abandoning yourself. If you believe that your best feelings come from someone else loving you instead of you loving you, then you are abandoning yourself. And when you abandon yourself, that little child in you is left to get the love he or she needs elsewhere.
When you abandon yourself because you have not learned how to take loving care of yourself or because you don't want the responsibility of your own feelings and needs, that is when you become needy of others love and attention. You learn many ways of trying to get the love, attention and compassion you need.
Think for a moment about what you do to get love, connection, attention, approval or compassion from others.
Do you try to be perfect - looking right, saying the right thing, being a high achiever? Do you try to be cute or funny? Do you try to show others how smart you are? Do you strive to have the best - the best house, the best car, the best wife or husband, the best children, the best clothing? Or, do you act helpless, incompetent, in need of rescuing? Do you pull on others with your complaining, your incessant talking, your whining, sulking, silence, or your bragging? Are you overly nice, a people-pleaser? Do you attempt to get the attention you want through intimidation - with anger, threats, blame, or violence?
When you have abandoned yourself and are love-addicted, you will have developed many ways of trying to have control over getting the love you need. That little child in you is desperate to be loved. The emptiness of the self-abandonment and the resulting longing for love leads you to behave in the very ways that end up pushing others away. It is a losing battle. IT WILL NEVER WORK. You will never get the love you need by trying to get others to give to you what only you can give to yourself.
If you are interested in learning how to give yourself the love you have always wanted and break your love-addiction, you can start by downloading our free Inner Bonding course. This 6-step course will begin to give you the tools you need to move out of love-addiction and into love.
http://www.tentacool.net
Is There Something Missing In Your Life?
As you begin to realize who you truly are right now you will begin to see just how much in love with your self you are.
You really do love yourself. It is primal.
The only thing missing is your realization of just who you are. You have misidentified and mistaken who you are with who you think you are.
You suffer that mistake big time. If the "spark" of desiring to come home to the heart has been lit inside of you - and for most folk this is not the case, even though everyone has this primal desire within them - then slowly slowly this "spark" will turn into a raging fire that will consume who you think you are.
As a seeker you think you are going to "attain" something. Instead you are going to lose all sense of who you think you are. The fire of the desire to come home to the heart will burn you up.
Who you think you are is going to die - because it is only a transient unreality, a falsehood. Currently you believe the unreal to be real and the real to be unreal. This is the nature of the illusion, it turns everything around 180 degrees. The appearance is not as it seems.
Your attachment to this world of your imagination - yes, it is entirely created by your own imagination, day by day - will unravel as you realize just who you are.
Every time that you dream - when asleep - you create another world of your imagination. You know what your dreams can be like and these are your own creation. Sometimes you fly in them, or go underwater without having to breathe, or are losing body limbs, or being chased, etc... You could be forgiven for believing how creative you can be.
Well, this world that you find yourself waking up in day in and day out also only exists because of your own imagination.
Now let the mouth of your mind wrap its laughing gear around that one!
Who you are is not who you think you are. As you "see and be" who you are - come to rest as this one - you will lose flavour in and with the games of your own imagination.
You will die to who you think you are and arise as the heart.
http://www.tentacool.net
You really do love yourself. It is primal.
The only thing missing is your realization of just who you are. You have misidentified and mistaken who you are with who you think you are.
You suffer that mistake big time. If the "spark" of desiring to come home to the heart has been lit inside of you - and for most folk this is not the case, even though everyone has this primal desire within them - then slowly slowly this "spark" will turn into a raging fire that will consume who you think you are.
As a seeker you think you are going to "attain" something. Instead you are going to lose all sense of who you think you are. The fire of the desire to come home to the heart will burn you up.
Who you think you are is going to die - because it is only a transient unreality, a falsehood. Currently you believe the unreal to be real and the real to be unreal. This is the nature of the illusion, it turns everything around 180 degrees. The appearance is not as it seems.
Your attachment to this world of your imagination - yes, it is entirely created by your own imagination, day by day - will unravel as you realize just who you are.
Every time that you dream - when asleep - you create another world of your imagination. You know what your dreams can be like and these are your own creation. Sometimes you fly in them, or go underwater without having to breathe, or are losing body limbs, or being chased, etc... You could be forgiven for believing how creative you can be.
Well, this world that you find yourself waking up in day in and day out also only exists because of your own imagination.
Now let the mouth of your mind wrap its laughing gear around that one!
Who you are is not who you think you are. As you "see and be" who you are - come to rest as this one - you will lose flavour in and with the games of your own imagination.
You will die to who you think you are and arise as the heart.
http://www.tentacool.net
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